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How weed affects relationships


If you’ve ever lit up a joint with your significant other, then surely you know a few things about what it feels like to smoke with that special someone. You know, it’s like flipping a coin, you can either have the best or worst time.

Consuming cannabis with your romantic partner sounds great on paper. After all, weed is known to increase your sexual appetite. But, the truth is that it can also be very detrimental to the emotional evolution of the relationship you’re in.

It really depends on the type of relationship you have with both yourself and your partner. What is for sure is that weed can either help your relationship grow or it can hinder it to the point of collapse.

So if you want some tips on how to navigate weed use in your romantic relationship and get a glimpse into the possible pros and cons of smoking with your partner, then keep reading this article.

Tips on how to navigate cannabis use in your relationship

Discussing weed with your significant other can be quite a daunting task. Especially since, according to OkCupid, 66% of current singles say cannabis use is a deal breaker.

Here at Hurcann, though, we believe that it can have its benefits to share a high with your partner. Most people say that it helps them with intimacy and connection.

When talking about weed, be sure to keep an open mind and be respectful of your partner’s point of view. It also might be a good idea to read up on the effects of weed before you try it.

These conversations can get tricky, though, so we recommend you keep the tone and mood conversational. And if you’re not sure about where to start, we have compiled a list of questions you can refer to, to get the conversation rolling.

Questions to have a conversation about weed with your bae

Here are some simple questions to get a conversation going with your partner about weed. After having this conversation, be sure to read this article together and weigh out the pros and cons of using cannabis in your relationship.

  1. How do you see cannabis affecting our relationship?
  2. Do you think the outcome would be positive or negative?
  3. Why do you enjoy smoking individually?
  4. Would you say weed is helpful for you? If so, what does it help you with?
  5. If not, why do you enjoy it?
  6. Do you have any concerns about trying cannabis with me?
  7. What would help those concerns?
  8. When is the point where we should be concerned with our use?
  9. What are going to be the terms for our weed use?
  10. What happens if one of us is no longer okay with using cannabis to bond?

These questions might get hard or complicated to answer, but clear communication will save you tons of problems in the long run. So make sure you are taking your partner into account and being respectful of their feelings and opinions.

If you don’t agree on how or when to use cannabis in your relationship, or only one of you is okay with cannabis use, things could get a bit hairy. So make sure that you have your priorities straight and choose what makes you happiest.

Pros to a weed friendly relationship

There are many pros to enjoying a bit of weed in a romantic relationship. It can help you have a more intimate connection, have better and more empathic communication, and enjoy your sex life more.

Those are the main benefits, but there are tons more to consider. It is important, however, that you are both on the same page. And these benefits might not be the case for everyone.

The only true way to see if cannabis helps your relationship is to ultimately try it. But if you want to do some research first, here are some of the benefits you could obtain from rolling up a joint with your loved one.

It helps reduce anxiety and pain

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There are very few things that can be more strenuous in a relationship than anxiety attacks, mental health issues, or chronic pain illnesses. It can quickly become a problem for both parties to have to deal with constant negative emotions.

For anyone who has gone through seeing someone you love go through a constant battle, you know how hard it can get. And for anyone who hasn’t, trust us when we tell you it’s not easy.

But don’t worry, cannabis could be the relationship-saving solution that you’re looking for. It can help with a wide array of issues. Cannabis has been proven to help with:

  • Anxiety
  • Cancer symptoms like nausea and pain
  • Chronic pain
  • Movement disorders like Parkinson’s
  • Alzheimer’s
  • Glaucoma
  • Epilepsy
  • Migraine

So, if you or your partner suffer from any of these issues, it might be a good idea to look into the medical benefits of cannabis further. It might save you and your partner a lot of pain.

It helps spice up your sex life


This is honestly one of the biggest perks of enjoying cannabis with your romantic partner. You see, cannabis heightens your senses and makes everything feel more “vivid”.

You can imagine how intimate it must feel then. Research actually shows that cannabis can increase sensations, increase emotional states, maximize sexual desire, and lower inhibitions to allow you to fully let go and enjoy your partner’s company.

It’s no wonder that there are tons of cannabis-derived products that are specifically catered towards intimacy.

These products range from cannabis infused condoms to thermal lubricant containing THC, and trust us when we tell you that you are going to want to try some of this stuff out.

You actually don’t get high with most of these products given that they are topical and you have to ingest weed to get high. So, if you don’t want the psychoactive effects that THC can induce in your system, topical sex products might be the way to go.

Even if you just enjoy a little dab of moon rock in your bong before getting intimate with your partner, the experience can be heightened to a level that might even surprise you. It also helps with energy and creativity, which are essential for a healthy sex life.

Cannabis users actually frequently boast about how it increases their happiness and sexual pleasure. There have even been studies on this subject, and the conclusion is that stoners have a higher chance of reaching orgasm. As you can see in the chart below.

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So, if you’re looking to spice up your sex life, cannabis might be the boost you’re looking for. Just make sure that it doesn’t become a habit, it can be very difficult to enjoy sexual relationships without cannabis if you acostum your body to it.

It helps boost your social life

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One of the biggest perks that people report from weed use is a sense of having a better social life. Cannabis helps lower your inhibitions and helps you have more intimate and vulnerable conversations with your friends and, ultimately, your significant other.

So get your pre-roll ready and share it with your friends; put in a movie and have a laugh with them. The bonding that happens when sharing a high experience is like no other.

Be sure to only light up with people that you love and trust. Someone that isn’t on your same wavelength will only make you have a bad experience. Trust us.

It helps with alcohol dependency

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Alcohol dependency is one of the most complicated issues to go through with your partner. Contrary to weed, alcohol can make you do or say things you might regret the next day.

It also makes you less inclined towards empathy with your loved one, and it can become something that breaks your relationship. Let alone the money some people spend on alcohol on average, it is insane. And it can lead to serious debt.

Cannabis has also been known to help with alcohol dependency. And while we don’t recommend just simply switching vices, in a controlled and dosed manner, it can help you beat your alcohol dependency and be a better partner for your bae.

There have been conclusive studies that show that weed use has significantly reduced alcohol dependency in people, so it might be worth trying out.

It helps reduce stress

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Stress from work obligations or everyday tasks can be toxic for a relationship. And it can be very hard to leave your problems at work and not take them home with you.

Imagine if you shared a joint with your partner and intently relaxed together instead of taking your stress out on them or feeling too drained to be present. Things would probably change for the better.

High stress translates throughout your body and language and can often be confused as anger or disinterest. So if you’re looking for a way to relax and be more present with your loved one, weed might be the way to go.

Roll a joint and play a game together, talk, or watch a movie. That bonding time could do wonders for your relationship.

And again, if you don’t feel comfortable with getting high, remember that you don’t have to. You can consume CBD products that are specifically designed to reduce stress without any of the psychoactive side effects of THC.

Cons to a weed friendly relationship

Though cannabis use can be a great ally in a romantic relationship, it does have its potential cons. It’s always important to analyze both aspects of cannabis use in a relationship before trying it out.

Weigh out the pros and cons, and you can make an informed decision on whether it’s the right fit for you or not. And again, cannabis isn’t synonymous with getting high.

There are tons of cannabis-derived products on the market that can allow you to experience the benefits of weed without the high. Like HHC or CBD, for example. Whichever compound you consume, at the end of the day, it’s weed.

So if you want to consider the possible negatives of lighting up a joint with your bae, keep reading this article. These are the top cons of cannabis use in a romantic relationship.

It can lead to heated discussions

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When talking about delicate subjects or issues that you or your partner have strong opinions on, it can get real hairy, real quick. And even though having a conversation while high can be very enlightening and fun, when talking about serious subjects, you want to be on your A game mentally.

Remember that cannabis heightens your emotions. And this isn’t exclusive to the positive ones. If something would normally make you mad and you’re high, it will probably infuriate you.

Cannabis can unfortunately send you on a downward spiral into the emotions that you don’t like to feel, and you might feel like there’s no way out or that you’re just going in circles.

If you do ever get into a heated discussion with your partner while high, remember that it is not the best time to talk and ask to pause the conversation and take some time to gather your thoughts. Try and put yourself in your partner’s shoes and think of a better way to communicate your feelings without getting defensive or hurting your partner’s feelings.

Also keep in mind that if you consumed THC, your mind was in an altered state and you might not be perceiving things as they are meant for you. Keep calm, get through the conversation, and then talk when you’re no longer worried about delicate matters.

There is a lack of research on cannabis

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One of the main struggles for weed users is the pending legislation on cannabis use. There is a very tumultuous history with cannabis and the government and most people still think that weed isn’t only addictive but also very dangerous.

This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Nixon, who made cannabis illegal in the first place, actually confessed in the Nixon Tapes that he was using cannabis as a means to lock up African Americans and Mexican Americans.

He actually went as far as to have a study done on weed to prove its toxicity for humans, but The Shafer Report, actually found the contrary and the top doctors on the team came out publicly to say that weed wasn’t only a non-toxic substance for humans, but that they had found possible medical benefits in cannabis.

Despite all of this, cannabis remains a Schedule 1 drug along with Heroin and Ecstasy. And this can be a strong argument for people who are against weed use, however small a percentage of the American population they are.

This is rapidly changing though, and according to studies done in 2020, 66% of the American Population is in favor of cannabis legalization. So we might be looking at a future where weed is considered similar to tobacco and is sold in every corner of America.

If your partner is scared to try cannabis because of its current DEA status, show them the reports on how cannabis isn’t addictive and just how many benefits it has for our bodies.

Used incorrectly, it can lead to health problems

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Although weed use isn’t generally addictive, you do have to dose your consumption. If you get carried away, you can develop a dependency on the substance.

We are, however, talking about getting really carried away. Like smoke all day, every day, carried away. And even then, it can be tricky to determine if you are risking generating addictive behavior.

Although the risk of addiction is low, there are other health problems that can arise from improper weed use. Here are some of them:

  • Damage in the brain’s pleasure center
  • Damage to cognitive functions
  • Damage to reproductive systems
  • “Risk of dependency”
  • Anxiety and panic symptoms
  • Create mood alterations.
  • Withdrawal symptoms

Before you get scared, these side-effects aren’t common, but we do feel it’s best to mention them so you know the worst case scenario.

However, if your use isn’t regular, then you shouldn’t be worried about any of these problems. Like we said, this happens if you’re the “smoke every day and twice on Sundays” kind of stoner.

It can send you into a rut

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One of the most dangerous things for couples is the infamous rut. We’ve all gotten used to laying in bed, eating Cheetos and binge-watching Netflix shows. And we all know it can kill romance really quickly.

Well, if you find yourself in this rut or don’t want to get into one, we recommend you don’t try cannabis as a couple or keep it on a Sunday basis. Why? Well, cannabis can actually induce lethargy. makes you want to stay in bed all day.

This can be detrimental because it can keep you from going out and enjoying the company of your partner in moments that are going to make you bond. And no real bonding is happening when you’re both facing a screen really close to each other.

However, this doesn’t have to be the case whatsoever. Lethargy is only a side effect of CBD-dominant strains. It also depends on a lot of things if you can get the drowsy bug from lighting up.

If you want to stay away from the infamous relationship rut, we suggest trying THC dominant strains, sativa and energy inducing. Also, keep your consumption to an occasional basis.

Another really great tip to avoid getting sucked into your bed for months on end is planning a day with your romantic partner so you can enjoy Miami while high.

It can lead to an emotional disconnect

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While weed can help you build intimacy with your partner and it actually helps you build a stronger emotional connection, used in excess, it can become a double-edged sword.

You see, THC, the substance found in sativa strains, can be very fun and enlightening, but when used in excess, it starts changing your emotional response to external stimuli.

This can cause an emotional disconnect with your partner, leaving them feeling like you just don’t care anymore. You might also start needing cannabis to be able to perform sexually. So be careful with the frequency with which you consume.

If you ever start to feel emotionally disconnected, take a break from cannabis and think about whether it’s your body’s response to THC, or if you simply don’t think this is the person for you. Don’t be afraid to have a conversation with your partner about it.

It can make it harder to find a romantic partner

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There is a huge con to smoking when it comes to your love life. People are far less likely to want a romantic relationship with you.

This sounds wild, but OkCupid performed a survey on all of their users in 2019 and found that people who consider any drug use a “deal-breaker” are 73% more likely to be looking for love than those who do like cannabis.

This means that if you are a stoner, people are far more likely to just want a casual and physical relationship with you, but won’t want to form deep emotional ties with you.

This can also be a pro, depending on what you’re looking for. But if it’s love, I’m sorry to break the news to you that your weed use might be what’s stopping you from finding the one. Although, the one would love you, cannabis and all.


If you and your partner are thinking of trying out cannabis together, just keep all of our pros and cons in mind and work through things as a team. There are many things that you can get out of cannabis in your relationship, but used in excess it can quickly become a double edged sword.

Cannabis is great when used on occasion and with someone you truly trust and get along with. If you are having problems in your relationship, try solving your communication before experimenting with weed.

Do you have any tips or advice for enjoying cannabis with your couple? Feel free to share with us in the comments below. Also feel free to share this article with your loved one and discuss what cannabis could or couldn’t do for your relationship.